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Writer's pictureThe Reformed Bohemian

Riding the Menopausal Wave with Grace: Honouring the process

Imagine a deep vast ocean, its rhythm a mirror to our lives. It ebbs, it flows, as do we. Menopause is like the ocean's high tide. Powerful, intense, and somewhat mysterious, it’s a natural process that can feel challenging, not just physically but mentally and emotionally. Yet just as the moon influences the ocean's tides, our bodies too are part of a broader cyclical dance. A dance between physicality and spirituality. Menopause is not to be feared, we do not shrivel up and lose our value as we enter this season of life, instead we enter a vibrant, transformative shift - a time of personal metamorphosis.


A middle aged woman looking fanning herself with a piece of paper next to her is a sign saying menopause ahead and a blue butterfly is behind her flying towards a pink flower is

The Transformational Shift of Menopause

We consider youth as the vibrate, beautiful phase of life, a time of hope, dreams and unlimited energy and fear ageing as we’re taught that getting old brings with it a loss of beauty, vitality, hope and dreams. As women we’re told we’re not attractive and lose value in a society that favours the young or does it? Consider the journey of a caterpillar, it lives a simple life until one day it retreats into its chrysalis. within this sacred space a remarkable transformation occurs, hidden from view but no less remarkable, the caterpillar goes through such a seismic shift that what emerges from that sacred space is a beautiful butterfly.


This journey mirrors our menopause experience. It’s a sacred pause, a time of introspection and self-realisation. It’s where all we have learned, all the lessons, some painful, some joyful find their place. The hot flashes, mood swings, or sleepless nights, they're not just symptoms; they're our spiritual guideposts, signifiers of deeper transformation at work. Just as the cells of the caterpillar break down in it’s chrysalis, so our bodies go through it’s own transformation. These signals urge us to look inward and tap into our personal power, the power of the life experience we have gained through our journey to maturity. Menopause isn't just a biological process; it's a spiritual awakening, an invitation from the Universe to evolve and uncover our true potential.

More Than Just a Physical Rite of Passage

The menopause journey and its impact on mental and emotional well-being, can feel like a challenging climb, but remember, the view from the summit is always worth it.


During menopause, our hormones are on a roller coaster ride. Estrogen, our trusty co-pilot, starts to step back, creating a bit of turbulence. This shift doesn't just affect us physically; it also impacts our mental and emotional health. Some days, we may feel like we're caught in the rain without a coat. One minute, we're sunny and cheerful, and the next, we're feeling sad for no apparent reason. Mood swings become our unsolicited companions. If you’ve ever suddenly found yourself crying at an ad on TV or social media or as a social media ‘memory’ pops up you're not alone - you’re simply in the ‘menopause theme park’, riding the ‘hormonal roller coaster’!


And it doesn’t end there, there's the issue of sleep, insomnia out of nowhere, waking up for no reason at 3 in the morning, kicking off the sheets in a sweat one minute and freezing cold the next, making restful sleep feel like an elusive luxury. And let's be honest, without a good night's sleep, at the best of times we can all turn into irritable grizzly bears, but with the crippling fatigue that falls like a sledgehammer during our menopausal years it can be hard to raise a smile even in the best of times.

Embracing The Wisdom in the Journey

But it’s not all gloomy clouds and rainy days. These challenges also come with a silver lining - the chance for profound personal growth. Just like a diamond, our true brilliance emerges under pressure. The struggles we face during menopause can initiate us into a deeper understanding of ourselves, acting as a catalyst for self-discovery and emotional maturity.


The wisdom offered by our mood swings, though tumultuous, serve as a signal, a lighthouse guiding us towards inner emotional territories that need our attention and care. Maybe we’ve been neglecting certain feelings, or perhaps there are unresolved issues that need addressing. The menopause-induced emotional roller coaster can be our invitation to heal, to grow, to become a more authentic versions of ourselves.


Similarly, sleepless nights can be reframed as quiet hours, offering us solitude and the chance to cultivate mindfulness. Instead of wrestling with insomnia, we can use these wakeful hours to meditate, journal, or engage in gentle yoga. These practices not only help calm the mind, but they also deepen our self-connection, transforming our struggle into a journey of self-discovery.


It’s like we’re the caterpillar wrapped inside our own chrysalises, undergoing a profound transformation and menopause, with all its trials and tribulations, is the force that facilitates our metamorphosis. It’s a reminder that you’re not falling apart; you’re evolving.

Conclusion

Through this lens, menopause isn't merely a biological process but a rite of passage, a journey from one season to another, complete with its trials and treasures. Yes, the path might be steep, the weather might turn stormy, and we might stumble along the way. But remember, the journey is worth every step because at the top of this menopausal mountain, we find a stronger, wiser, and more resilient version of ourselves, ready to take on the world.


And as we look back at the journey, as we appreciate the view from the summit, we realise – we haven’t just survived menopause; we have thrived through it. We’ve navigated the stormy seas, weathered the winds, and emerged as lighthouses, radiating wisdom, strength, and grace.


So, the next time you find yourself on the 'menopause roller coaster', remember, it’s all part of the ride. Embrace the journey, honour the process, and trust that you're becoming the best version of yourself, one transformational step at a time.

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